Jill Darcey

What to do when your teen wants to live with your Ex

If you've read or listened to me speaking, you'll know that I'm an advocate for children staying together and moving as a 'unit'. It's more of an All or None approach when deciding on the routine of who goes where when. As life is often not so black 'n w... Read >

Do My Children Have One Home or Two?

I'd like to firstly take your attention for a few minutes while I answer a really important question that I've been asked ... "Are my children meant to have one or two homes now we're divorced?" It's strange that this is one of the most confusing for pare... Read >

My House is Quiet - Too Quiet!

Do you dream of the moment when you can have a bath undisturbed, or go out somewhere (anywhere, you're not fussy!) without taking an hour to get everyone into the car? That time has come ... you've got a weekend to yourself and ... Instead, you can't deci... Read >

What To Do with Lateness or No-Shows with Your Ex

Albert Einstein when asked of "Relativity" answered with this. "Relativity: An hour sitting with a pretty girl on a park bench passes like a minute, but a minute sitting on a hot stove seems like an hour." So what does this have to do with your Ex showin... Read >

Children Adjusting When They're Home From The Ex's Place

Do you find it takes time for your children to settle in when they come back from your Ex's place? If you're like me, sometimes I wonder what goes on there that means they have to change so much. I mean, they've only been away a weekend and yet it feels ... Read >

Do I Have To Share My Kids

Why do you want to spend less time with your children when growing up happens so quickly these days? Don't you look back on how many years have gone already and wonder how it's passed so fast?! And to think you've got to spend less time with your children... Read >

Your Routine Options and How To Work Them Out

Have you ever stopped to think how many varieties of shared-parenting/co-parenting routines and plans there are? You'd be surprised! You'll also be surprised at what you think is so obvious, suddenly is not! It's amazing that routines are one of the hott... Read >

Why Routines Are Important & How To Create Them

I was told that “assume" means "to make an ass out of u and me", so although it can seem obvious why routines are important, let's just say, I’m not going to assume you know in case I stuff it up for both of us! If we don't know how to create routines yet... Read >

Do You Say "Tomorrow I'll do better", Yet by 8am You're Yelling at Your Children?

Most parents put their hand up and say, "Yes, me too!" Exhausted from a day of nagging, yelling and demanding your children do things faster, better, or do something at all, you flop into bed and wish for more peace in home. With your head churning, you... Read >

To speak ill of your Ex with your child says 'I love you, but biologically you're 50% a jerk!'

Speaking poorly of your child's other parent is one of the largest issues overlooked by co-parents - and yet it is one of the easiest for you to resolve. The reasons (or should I say excuses) that it is acceptable to slag off about your Ex to your childr... Read >

Beyond Split & Broken - Complex Instead

Statistically, the effects of divorce on our society are difficult to prove although there are figures bandied around. What we do know is that some people go on and have far better lives and some don't. For majority however, we can say divorce carved its ... Read >

Financial Crisis ... What do we tell our kids?

When the rest of the world is reporting financial doom and gloom, what do our teens think? In a generation which we see more and more young people struggling with hopelessness, is this media frenzy really helping? As parents, especially inside a Comple... Read >

World peace? How about Home Peace first...

We are all inspired at one time or another to embrace the vision and dream of world peace. We love what opportunities this brings and we dream of a world where we move beyond a fear and engage in the concept of difference not being judged, but rather cele... Read >

But, You Don't Know My Ex!

This is one of the most common comments heard when talking with people about an Ex. Those of us who are parents and inside a Complex Family often have an Ex, and we normally believe it is near impossible to get on with them. Let's face it, it didn't work ... Read >